A few days before the news of Gigi & Kobe’s death I saw this video of John Boyega on Twitter— surprising his parents with a house of their own. The weeks following of the Bryant accident has made me reflect on the recent deaths of my family and friends. And something he said resonated with me:
“As your parents get older they become your babies. They’re curious everyday about who you are as a person”
John Boyega
I feel my parents growing older everyday. And the more I transform into an adult, the more they regress as one. I grow with more frustrations, pains, and come out with a better understanding of the world. But they’ve been through it, growing up. Some form of it. And they know, that time is used more wisely caring and loving your children or loved ones—rather than continuing to be stressed by the problems around them.
I used to hate that my parents were older than most of my friends’ parents. Because I thought my parents never understood me. And now, I still hate that they’re older, because I’m losing time that I should’ve cherished with them when I spent everyday under their care.
Don’t get me wrong—they’re still my parents and infuriate me sometimes. But now I understand that they went through something similar, if not more difficult than what I’m experiencing. With less privilege, with less resources. With different circumstances and a different world of problems.
And now, they’re dealing with the loss of and challenges of taking care of their parents as they reach the end of a happy life.
“Parents just want to be included”
David So, GeniusBrain Podcast
I try to let my parents know more about me. Not necessarily everything, but to let see what kind of person I am. To let them know that their investment in me as paying off in the hard work I’m putting into my career, my relationships, and my livelihood.
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